Harnessing my inner bitch . . .

6 May

I have no idea if bitchy Lisa will have more success, but, I thought I would give it a try.

Yesterday I got a phone call from my surgeon’s office canceling my upcoming surgery. They explained that my surgeon has a conflict with another patient’s surgery date and as a result, they had to give my surgery date away to the other patient.


So, let me get this straight . . . instead of postponing the other patient’s date out later, they are giving the patient my date and then postponing my surgery out for a later date.

I do not understand why their conflict has to affect my surgery date. But, I do think I completely understand why it is me that is being asked (okay, not asked, told) to change my surgery date.

Because I am nice.

My surgeon, as I am sure most surgeons do, has emergencies that come up and as a result my appointments get cancelled quite a bit. At first it was just a few times, then it became almost the norm, that my appointment would be postponed to another day . . . “Thank you Lisa, you are always so nice and so understanding . . . thank you for being so easy to deal with . . . ” Blah, blah, blah, blah . . .

I understand emergencies. But, this isn’t an emergency – this is scheduling.

The new date they want me to go with conflicts with a very busy time of year for me work wise. If I am out and unable to work at this time, then I basically will not have any paying work (as in NO income) until November. I really can’t have that.

On top of the change costing me a lot financially, I have already made arrangements (caretakers to stay with me after surgery, groceries for myself and care takers, food prep, dog care and all of the stuff you have to cover when you know you are going to be out of commission for a few weeks). This was all arranged a long time ago. I have already done my pre-op hop.

So, after being my initial nice self, I called my surgeon’s office back – not two minutes after hanging up with them – and now suddenly they were unavailable. Why? Because they were calling the other patient and telling her she could have my surgery date.

So . . . I called upon my inner bitch, and . . . she came out and did a little dance.

We’ll see if this works. I have always subscribed to the adage that it pays to be nice (not that I think I should be paid for being nice. I just think it is better to be nice). But, maybe nice gals finish last, I don’t know.

Wish me luck. Hopefully the bitchy dance will work. (Oh, and I wasn’t rude or anything, just wasn’t the pushover they are used to . . . )

Love and peace,


2 Responses to “Harnessing my inner bitch . . .”

  1. Jennifer May 6, 2010 at 3:45 PM #

    Good luck with your “bitchy dance.” 🙂

  2. cancerfree2b May 11, 2010 at 8:08 AM #

    Hi Jennifer 🙂

    Well, i don’t know if it worked or not. I did get an earlier surgery date (earlier than the one my surgery was postponed to). But, it is still postponed – just not as far. It doesn’t really help too much as the point was to have surgery in advance of my busy time at work – at least enough to recover most of the way from surgery.

    Now there are other wrinkles anyway. As in, my doctor can not clear me for surgery yet. My EKG came back abnormal. So, now it is off to see a cardiologist. Hopefully that will all go well. Now it isn’t so much about the surgery date as it is about my heart being well. I hope everything is fine.

    I hope you are doing well! I look forward to talking to you soon!


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